Abortion: The Serious Health Decision Women Aren’t Talking About Until Now
“In the end there’s little drama to the procedure, but that doesn’t make it a simple experience. How could it be, when abortion inspires culture-quaking political and religious debates and feels too charged to discuss, even woman to woman? “No one talks about abortion on a personal level—there’s too much stigma attached,” says Aspen Baker, the cofounder of Exhale, an after-abortion counseling help line.”
““The procedure is unsettling, because they basically vacuum out your uterus. It was painful, but I knew it was the right choice and I had no guilt afterward.” This is not unusual, says Baker: “I cannot tell you how many women call us wondering if they are somehow bad people for feeling relieved, or happy, or proud for having made it through a difficult decision.”
“Yet in Glamour interviews, counselors, medical experts and more than two dozen women who have had the procedure agreed that women don’t discuss how they decided whether or not to end a pregnancy—how it felt and how they recovered, physically and emotionally; how they look back on their choice as time passes. The result is that millions of women grapple alone with the decision and the emotions that come afterward. Adamantly pro-choice women may be shocked by their own sadness about having an abortion whereas extremely religious women may be stunned by their sense of relief; both reactions, experts say, are normal”.
“Every woman who faces the abortion decision deserves a friend’s arms around her”
““I was raised Christian, and had already asked God to forgive me, but I couldn’t forgive myself,” she says. Distraught, Lisa wrestled with her emotions and more depression until she found an abortion recovery bible study group. “I came to a place of acceptance,” she says. “I would give anything to go back, but I can’t. Instead, I choose to forgive myself and to move forward.”
“Physically, the abortion wasn’t painful, but emotionally, it was hell. I didn’t talk to anyone but my husband and doctor about it for a long time. When I finally told my brother, he said, “I’m so sorry I wasn’t there to hug you when you came home.”
“My abortion was not painful, but I am wistful about losing the physical sensation of being pregnant. I never realized how a baby could get into a woman’s blood—I still feel a connection to that little lima bean. My husband and I want to have a baby one day—but it will be planned.”
FYI: There is another Baker covered in the article, Anne, of no relation to me, and they don’t distinguish our quotes very well.